Turning the Negatives into Positives in All That You Do

Turning the Negatives into Positives in All That You Do

As a long time business, personal and real estate coach, Melvin Feller has determined upon his research that thinking negatively is second nature to many people. Melvin Feller goes on to say that to many of us it becomes second nature and as such, we do not even know we are being so negative.

Turning the Negatives into Positives by Melvin Feller

Stressful jobs, recession money woes and unrelenting pressure from family and social duties can turn even the most cheerful person into an anxious pessimist with little motivation. However, positivity is all in your mind, and once you understand that your mood and your outlook on the life is something you can actually control, you will be more ready to tackle any challenges that life hurtles your way. Here are ten little tips that will help you turn negatives into positives, ultimately letting you lead a life with less worry.

Speak in the positive. Even if you have to convey a negative thought or emotion, say it in the positive. For example, instead of saying or thinking “I can’t get through this,” say, “I’m lost” or “I need help.” Speaking in the negative just reiterates your negative feelings.

Rethink obstacles. Try to view problems as something you can work through, instead of obstacles that prevent you from getting what you want. Just because your first plan of action did not work, does not mean there is not another way.

Avoid ultimatums. The more pressure you put on yourself and other people, the more out of control you will feel. Ultimatums also tend to make small issues blow up into problems that cause more trouble than they are worth.

Force yourself to smile or laugh. Release a little positive energy by smiling at someone on the other hand, telling a joke.

Turning the Negatives into Positives by Melvin Feller

Remember the things you are good at. If your job is killing you, think of all the things you are actually good at, like fly fishing, listening to others or painting.

Reach out to others. You do not have to see a therapist to reap the benefits of talking about your problems. Friends and family can also give you another perspective on your problem that will help you get through the tough times.

Sleep on it. If you just cannot see around an obstacle, put it aside until after you get a good rest.

Start more sentences with “I can.” Try to turn as many “I can’t” into “I cans” each day.

Reduce your stress level. Try to reduce your stress level by doing one positive thing each day, by giving yourself a little more free time, going to bed early or visiting with friends.

Figure out how your problems will pan out in the long term. Will this problem still be a major issue in 3 weeks, 6 months, or one year? Gauge your reaction to problems by asking yourself how important and relevant they are to your life.

Turning the Negatives into Positives by Melvin Feller

Generally, Melvin Feller knows all too well that your mind can produce two categories of thoughts — positive and negative. Your thoughts influence your emotions and change how you feel. Negative thoughts make you feel unpleasant. It certainly takes some practice to stop negativity and start having a positive outlook on life.

However, if you are able to change your perspective on things, you will be able to live a more fulfilling and purposeful life. Start with the steps we just discussed and see what changes they make in your overall well-being.


Melvin Feller is known as “The Entrepreneur’s Mentor” because Melvin walks his talk. Melvin Feller has been there and done that and more importantly, Melvin Feller knows how to transfer the skill set for success. This is main reason that he has been the sought after coach to hundreds of small business owners, entrepreneurs, Realtors, real estate investors and service professional internationally. Melvin Feller’s main talent is to show you how the step by step process to build and enjoy a successful 6-figure plus business while having a balanced life. Melvin Feller maintains offices in Texas and Oklahoma.

Melvin Feller MA Business Consultant, Business Owner, Entrepreneur and MBA

Melvin Feller MA is in Texas and in Oklahoma. Melvin Feller founded Melvin Feller Business Group in the 1970s to help individuals and organizations achieve their specific Victory. Victory as defined by the individual or organization are achieving strategic objectives, exceeding goals, getting results or desired outcomes. He has extensive experience assisting businesses achieve top and bottom line results. He has broad practical experience creating WINNERS in many organizations and industries. He has hands-on experience in executive leadership, operations, logistics, sales, program management, organizational development, training, and customer service. He has coached teams to achieve results in strategic planning, business development, organizational design, sales, and customer response and business process improvement. He has prepared and presented many workshops nationally and internationally.