Melvin Feller MA Discusses Several Ways to Control Fear While Gaining Success!

Melvin Feller MA Discusses Several Ways to Control Fear While Gaining Success!

If you have ever been afraid of failing, it is time to get over it. That is according to Melvin Feller, a life coach and motivational speaker, who concludes that there are several fears that hold people back from achieving their full potential. “At some point, present or past, fear has torn us all away from some significant accomplishment or victory,”.

Ways to Control Fear by Melvin Feller MA

Melvin Feller goes on to say, “You can probably think back to a moment in life where you avoided it, suppressed it or hid it. If your experience is anything like mine, I know that none of these reactions helped you achieve anything.” Instead, Melvin Feller tells us to tackle our anxieties with confidence. “You don’t have to keep running from fear,” he explains. “In fact, there’s a way to overcome and eradicate each and every fear you face.”

Therefore, Melvin Feller is adamant that in setting goals and working toward wanted achievements, you may find yourself facing a fear of something you cannot seem to get rid of. Thus, here are several ways that Melvin Feller suggest you can control fear and put it behind you.

Take baby steps — no need to face your fear of snake wrangling by thrusting your hand into a Copperhead’s nest. Start out by getting a book on the subject, talk to an expert, and get as much information on the subject as possible. The more you read and learn about a subject, the less fear.

Jump in headfirst — Maybe it is better for you to go on a bridge burning expedition. Like a swimmer, who does not like getting cold slowly by wading into the pool slowly, you simply run up the high dive and jump off. This is inadvisable for snake wrangling, but if you applied it for public speaking, going to a job interview or learning to ride a bike for the first time, I am sure you will live.

Ways to Control Fear by Melvin Feller MA

Use self-talk — Here you would apply a personal mantra — or saying — that makes you feel more confident. Brian Tracey suggests using repeating, “I like myself, I like myself…” before a fearful task such as public speaking. Personally, I use “I can do this!” as my confidence builder.

Get the advice of someone who has done it — Melvin Feller is a great resource but also a good coach is a good idea too…

Learn more about your fear — research can give understanding and control over a dark overwhelming fear. Buy a book or three about how to overcome your worry.
For example, several studies show people can fear public speaking more than they fear death. Yet there are libraries worth of books, audio and video programs that show you how to get over the fear and speak before audiences. I am sure if you can give a name to your fear; someone else has overcome it and written a book.

Ways to Control Fear by Melvin Feller MA

Use progressive exposure coupled with relaxation — this is good for people who fear flying. I have had friends who were so afraid of flying on planes simply driving to the airport made them physically ill. Progressive exposure starts with a safe environment where you can relax and think of the fear. As the worry or anxiety increases, relaxation is used to counteract it. Over a short period, you increase your exposure until you finally face the fear itself.

Find humor — If you do not take actions on your personal goals because you fear failing and having people laugh and throw pies, tomatoes or Chinese Egg Foo Yung with gravy and chopsticks, then there is hope for you. Imagine yourself failing miserably and people hyperventilating from the laughter. Imagine blundering and knocking over a table or your pants somehow falling down. Make it ridiculous and funny. Fact is the people who care about you will not laugh at your failure, even if you are wearing a lampshade on your head. The people who do laugh at sincere effort are usually not that bright anyway, so who cares?

Ways to Control Fear by Melvin Feller MA

What is the worst that can happen? Face the worst. Take some time to think through the worst outcome you can imagine and write it down. Not only does admitting your greatest fear decrease the impact of it, writing it down makes your mind look at it more analytically.

Write up a pros and cons sheet — Take out a sheet of paper and write your fear at the top. Then, draw a line down the center of the page. Head the left side Pros head the Right side Cons. Write down all the pros to you for holding on to your fear and then write down all the cons of continuing with it. Is the cons list longer? Time to get to work.

Breathing exercises — much of the panic and apprehension you can feel simply comes from shallow breathing or hyperventilating. I see this a lot in the rooms before someone is getting ready to go on stage and speak. Close your eyes, take deep breaths from the diaphragm. The way you know you are breathing from the diaphragm is your stomach should move in and out, not your chest. Slow down your breathing by counting your inhalations and exhalations.

Melvin Feller is known as “The Entrepreneur’s Mentor” because Melvin walks his talk. Melvin Feller has been there and done that and more importantly, Melvin Feller knows how to transfer the skill set for success. This is main reason that he has been the sought after coach to hundreds of small business owners, entrepreneurs, Realtors, real estate investors and service professional internationally. Melvin Feller’s main talent is to show you how the step by step process to build and enjoy a successful 6-figure plus business while having a balanced life. Melvin Feller maintains offices in Texas and Oklahoma.

Melvin Feller MA Business Consultant, Business Owner, Entrepreneur and MBA

Melvin Feller MA is in Texas and in Oklahoma. Melvin Feller founded Melvin Feller Business Group in the 1970s to help individuals and organizations achieve their specific Victory. Victory as defined by the individual or organization are achieving strategic objectives, exceeding goals, getting results or desired outcomes. He has extensive experience assisting businesses achieve top and bottom line results. He has broad practical experience creating WINNERS in many organizations and industries. He has hands-on experience in executive leadership, operations, logistics, sales, program management, organizational development, training, and customer service. He has coached teams to achieve results in strategic planning, business development, organizational design, sales, and customer response and business process improvement. He has prepared and presented many workshops nationally and internationally.