Ways to Build Your Social Network as Defined by Melvin Feller MA

 

Melvin Feller Shows Ways to Build Your Social Network.

Melvin Feller is the managing partner and Founder of Melvin Feller Business Group. Founded over 30 years ago, it started as small business development group but has now expanded to a worldwide organization. They develop and do grant writing, business plans and start up business design from the ground up. They are especially involved in minority and veteran businesses and endeavors. They also offer life coaching. Melvin Feller Business Group currently has offices in Dallas and Oklahoma City. Melvin Feller is also an adjunct instructor on a plethora of subjects.

One of Melvin Feller’s favorite motto is: “I will always try my best at what I do. I am not perfect and I have made mistakes. I will always own my mistakes and not pass the buck. However, I refuse to be defined by last mistake. Life is to short not to stand back up and damn the torpedoes and learn from those mistakes.” This was instilled in my Navy Reserve days but more importantly from my father!!

Melvin Feller defines a social support network as a group of people who you can count on to support you. They may be the first people that you call when something distressing has happened, when you have a difficult decision to make, or when you have great news to share. Some of the people in your social support network might be professionals and support you in very specific ways i.e. your family doctor or your life or business coach), and other people in your network you might live with or be in contact with every day.

Melvin Feller Believes in Being Socially Active.

First, let’s discuss why social support is important and why it matters to your self-development and care. Research has shown that a lack of social support or isolation can contribute to an ongoing state of chronic stress, which will negatively impact your immune system and put you at risk for other dangerous conditions both physically and mentally. However, make sure it is real support and NOT fair-weather support. That will be another topic for sure.

Now, what can reinforcing your social support network do for you? Social support can improve the functioning of your immune system, protecting you from disease, and it can increase your vitality, decrease your stress and improve your self-esteem.

Melvin Feller Asks What Makes a Social Support Network Solid?

First, Strength — In other words make sure that that you’re not counting on one or two people to provide all the support you need. That can be hard on them, and on you, especially if they’re suddenly unable to be there for you. Reach out regularly to several people in your circle of influence.

Secondly you need to have a Variety in your group — Also, having many types of people in your support network gives you access to their different skills, perspectives and experiences. These various skill types will assist you in becoming a better you!

Solid Networking by Melvin Feller

Thirdly, you will need a group or support circle of people with Common Ground. — If you’re dealing with a particularly difficult challenge or have a very specific goal that you need to obtain, then finding and regularly interacting with others in the same personality and interest type can have extremely beneficial results. Whether it’s finding out how others have handled a situation, or sharing some of your experience, groups like this can be a great boost to your self-esteem, accomplishment and care program.

Finally, you need to always have Something to Build On — The bottom line is that we all need to make a point of building or strengthening all of our relationships with people who inspire, encourage and support us, and who empower each of us to grow and to be our best self. For instance, someone who is very committed to his or her own self-improvement will inspire you to make positive self-improvement choices. And someone who is very loving and supportive will help you to feel good about yourself. It will allow you to incorporate these same traits within your life.

Melvin Feller’s Specific Ways to Develop Your Support Network

It is always highly recommended to call or email when things are good as well as when they’re not. Sharing your gratitude and appreciation for those around you can help to deepen your relationships and will also intensify your positive feelings.

You need to always be open and receptive to new people and ideas. You never know when someone new is going to come into your life or the unique gifts they will bring. I believe that sometimes we’re meant to connect with certain people only briefly — so instead of thinking, “I don’t have time for a new friend,”, go with your heart and get curious about what you can learn from interacting with this person. It has certainly changed my life for the positive!

Your Network is Important — Melvin Feller

We as individuals always need to remain ready to Offer to help others. Whether it’s people you know or people you haven’t met yet, helping others can be a wonderful boost for your own self-esteem and enlarging your support group. However, always remember not to overdo it and maintain your boundaries. This was a tough one for me to instill within my method of operations. You need to come first because there are certainly a lot of users in the world today.

Over the years, it has become increasingly more important to be unimpeachable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions and always do your best. This is so important with the bullies and faceless people on social media. There will always be circumstances where things happen beyond our control sometime but you will quickly discover your true support group. They will know the true you and support you through thick or thin. Just look at what divorces cause in this world. Been there done that and have the T-Shirt.

Another important point to watch that many times we may not feel like talking to anyone, or even just to talk to someone. Sometimes we choose to be isolated. It can be really difficult to reach out when we feel like this. I strongly recommend that you fight this urge and do it anyway. You will always be glad that you did. I promise that.

It’s important to remember that your social relationships can also have a negative impact on your self-esteem and importance Unspoken truths, unintentional sabotage, or continuously taking on the role of care-giver can all add stress and affect your commitment to self-care. My recommendation is do this activity in moderation. Instead, nourish your positive relationships and keep your social support network strong and working for you.

Melvin Feller Shows Multiple Ways to Network.

The key is to focus your energy on those things that you can influence — this will enable you to make effective changes. If you do this you will find your circle of influence starts to increase — others will see you as an effective person and this will increase your power. Conversely, if all your energy goes into those things you cannot change your circle of influence will shrink. Not only will you drain your energy, other people may start to see you as unduly negative and critical.

Knowing how far your circle of influence extends is an important aspect of personal effectiveness. So is forming partnerships and alliances — you may not have any direct influence over something in your Circle of Concern, but you may know other people who do. A team can have a wider circle of influence than an individual.

Thus the best outcome is that reactive people find their circle of influence shrinks, while proactive people find that it increases.