Melvin Feller Discuss How you Know When to Quit

Melvin Feller Discuss How you Know When to Quit


Melvin Feller Business Ministries Group in Burkburnett and Dallas Texas and Lawton Oklahoma. Our mission is to call and equip a generation of Christian entrepreneurs to do business as ministry. We provide workshops and resources that help companies discover how to do business God’s way. When the heart of a business is service rather than self it can be transformed into a fruitful business ministry earning a profit and being of service to the community and their customers. Melvin Feller is currently pursuing another graduate degree in business organizations.

Know When to Quit by Melvin Feller

In his book, “The Dip,” author Seth Godin says that the first step to becoming the best in the world is realizing that quitting may be important for your future success.
While you may think this flies in the face of conventional wisdom that winners never quit and quitters never win, Godin says that quitting something that will not make you the best makes perfect sense. Superstars, he says, are the ones who know when to quit something that is a dead end and stay focused and motivated when it really counts.

Know When to Quit by Melvin Feller

If you are considering quitting something, Godin says you should first ask yourself:
Am I panicking? “Quitting when you’re panicked,” he writes in his book, “is dangerous and expensive.” Why? Because the smartest move is to make the decision ahead of time that, you are going to quit. “When the pressure is the greatest to compromise, to drop out, or to settle, your desire to quit should be at its lowest,” he says. “The decision to quit is often made in the moment. But that exactly the wrong time to make such a critical decision.”

Know When to Quit by Mel Feller

Whom am I trying to influence? If you have a boss who just will not let up on you, then you are probably considering quitting your job. “If you’re trying to influence just one person, persistence has its limits. It is easy to cross the line between demonstrating your commitment and being a pest. If you haven’t influenced him yet, it may very well be time to quit,” Godin writes. “One person will make up his mind and if you’re going to succeed, you’ll have to change it. And changing someone’s mind is difficult, if not impossible.”



What sort of measurable progress am I making? On the job, you are moving forward, either standing still or falling behind. Godin says that if you decide to quit your job because you are not making progress, then you need to understand it does not mean you are quitting “your quest to make a living or a difference or an impact.” He says that you are not giving up because a job is just a “tactic,” a way to get you what you really want. He emphasizes that all those stories about authors who were turned down again and again — and then became a mega-hit overnight with a bestseller — are not stories about sticking it out in a dead-end, but rather the ability of these people to move through a market.

Know When to Quit by Melvin Feller

There are certain sure signs that quitting is better for you in the end. While many of these are common sense tips, it is often hard to look at the situation objectively. Change can be frightening, there are always some positives to hold you back, and quitting often feels like failure especially if you’ve invested a lot of effort or time into an endeavor.

Still, if it has come to the point where you know something has to change, take a step back and see how many of these ring true for you:


You are consistently experiencing more frustration than reward. With any situation, you have taken the bad with the good. However, if your experience is overwhelmingly negative for a long period, you have to consider leaving or some radical change. One unmistakable sign: You breathe a sigh of relief and your life feels instantly better with the mere thought of quitting.

Know When to Quit by Melvin Feller

You cannot envision a possible solution or continuing this way. After trying to resolve the issues that have been dragging you down, you still have no confidence things will change. Maybe you have been promised a promotion (that has always fallen through) for years; maybe you are waiting on others to change their habits when it is the last thing they want to do. For some situations, like when you are stuck with a bad manager, you might not have any choice but to quit.


Spending time on this keeps you from more rewarding endeavors or seriously damages your well-being. Ignore the fear of quitting and consider do you think you could achieve a better life for yourself if you quit? Is staying on with a project or social commitment causing you to over-extend yourself?


On a similar note, it is a huge red flag if your current situation is taking a toll on your mental and/or physical health. Get out of toxic relationships where a partner, client, or boss does not appreciate your value.


You are staying for the wrong reasons. If your decision to stay is based more on fear than on faith, you are probably in it for the wrong reasons. Are you afraid to hurt someone’s feelings? Staying solely out of a sense of responsibility? Afraid to admit you just made a bad choice or even to start over.

Know When to Quit by Melvin Feller

Your friends keep telling you to quit. While others’ advice alone shouldn’t be what you base your decision on, your friends want the best for you and may see what you need to do more clearly than you do.

By now, you may be nodding your head, ready to quit. While there is an upside to quitting especially if done often, you still want to make sure you are making the right decision.

Know When to Quit by Melvin Feller

Make sure you have identified the real causes of your unhappiness. Sometimes it’s other areas of our lives that are making us miserable and affecting everything else. Maybe you have just had a series of bad days due to other causes like poor sleep. On the other hand, perhaps you are just missing the right tools or skills to finish a job. Identify the real issues before you proceed.


To make an objective evaluation, keep a diary of events and problems. Tools like the Career cheat sheet can help you figure out if this is really the right job for you. This is just a journal or notes that help you to see the true picture of what is happening on the job.


Give it a chance. Many things, like diets, require time to work out. If you just started a job, don’t let the newness of it scare you off. If you are an aspiring artist or someone else who needs to be creative), know that it is normal for your work to disappoint you. “You just gotta fight your way through it.”


Try other solutions. Similarly, make sure you have tried several solutions. If you and your partner are always fighting over the same things, try looking at the situation from his or her perspective, try to communicate differently, read books on the subject, or seek help from a trusted friend or therapist.

Know When to Quit by Melvin Feller

Have a backup plan. Know what you are going to do if you quit and what you need to do to prepare for that.


Consider Godin’s observation: “…when was the last time you heard about someone who stuck with a dead-end job or a dead-end relationship or a dead-end sales prospect until suddenly, one day, the person at the other end said, ‘Wow, I really admire your persistence; let’s change our relationship for the better’? It doesn’t happen.”

Melvin Feller Business Organization Graduate Candidate and Business Coach

Melvin Feller Business Consultants Ministries Group in Texas and Oklahoma. Melvin Feller founded Melvin Feller Business Consultants Group Ministries in the 1970s to help individuals and organizations achieve their specific Victory. Victory as defined by the individual or organization are achieving strategic objectives, exceeding goals, getting results or desired outcomes. He has extensive experience assisting businesses achieve top and bottom line results. He has broad practical experience creating WINNERS in many organizations and industries. He has hands-on experience in executive leadership, operations, logistics, sales, program management, organizational development, training, and customer service. He has coached teams to achieve results in strategic planning, business development, organizational design, sales, and customer response and business process improvement. He has prepared and presented many workshops nationally and internationally.